How to deal with conflict…a flowchart!
Oct 20, 2009 Uncategorized | Print This Post
Yesterday’s post on “Covering an Offense” triggered some interesting responses from several people. One of the common things that came up was how to deal with someone who has sinned against you. A few years ago, I created a little flowchart for a teaching I did at Riv on the subject. You can download a PDF version of it by clicking on this image:
To listen to the audio of the message that went with the message, click here. For a crappy video of the teaching, click here.
October 20th, 2009 at 10:26 am
Noel: This is fantastic and helpful. I’m wondering about “#4 = No…Please Come Back Next Week” Could you expand on that? I’m thinking of parents protecting children or shepherds for their sheep. What’s next? Do you have an extension or subchart for that? Thanks.
October 20th, 2009 at 10:39 am
Ah…forgot about that. The next week I talked about how to help a friend who is stuck in sin (that is not against you). Here’s a link to that message.
October 20th, 2009 at 4:01 pm
One question about the flowchart. For conflicts with non-christians, is it unbiblical to approach them in a one on one manner with the matter, and then when if you are rejected go to the “Forgive and Accept the Injustice” phase. I feel like a vast number of conflicts with both other christians and unbelievers happen with the offending party completely unaware that they have hurt you. In a lot of cases, they just need to be aware, and this ends the whole conflict.
October 21st, 2009 at 9:59 am
I have only one problem with this flowchart…that I didn’t create it! Awesome, Noel. Perfect. You have great promise…
October 21st, 2009 at 11:18 am
I always appreciate a good back-handed compliment from you, Mike. Give my love to the fam.
October 21st, 2009 at 2:53 pm
Awesome flow chart. But as I was reading it, I was struck by the fact that I know all of this. It’s not a lack of knowledge that prevents me from handling conflict appropriately. It’s the fact that it’s hard work to handle conflict. I just don’t want to deal with it!