Comments on: Lust and Sexual Attraction, Part 2

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By: Walk The Razor » Blog Archive » Lust and Sexual Attraction

Walk The Razor » Blog Archive » Lust and Sexual Attraction — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 15:32:41 +0000

[...] I was working on my message for tonight I stumbled onto an old post I did at NoelHeikkinen.com. It fits with the topic at hand, so I figured I’d repost it [...]

By: Noel

Noel — Sat, 11 Aug 2007 15:48:19 +0000

Suprisingly, I didn’t sport a mullet. I was more of an Alex P Keaton conservative, actually.

Not sure which is worse, really.

By: Tina

Tina — Sat, 11 Aug 2007 14:59:26 +0000

Noel, you were the right age in the 80s … be honest: there are mullet pictures of you in some dark closet, aren’t there?

;)

(not to totally miss all the seriousness of this topic or anything)

By: Noel

Noel — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 19:58:28 +0000

I like the “Double Dang” idea.

By: markb

markb — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 19:07:03 +0000

thank you for an easy and clear thinking on attraction and lust. when talking to middle school boys about lust and the question is usually “when does looking (noticing a girl) turn to lust or is looking, lust?” I now have a clear way to explain to them. Our middle school has been using the “Double Dang Principle” The Double Dang works like this. When you see an attractive girl and your like “Dang!” that is normal. It is when you look again and are like “Daang!” you have crossed the line to lust. So we tell them don’t double dang. Simple yes but it helps.

By: Doug

Doug — Wed, 08 Aug 2007 00:35:32 +0000

Amen, Amen and, again, Amen!

On attraction, I agree that it’s the Holy Spirit that makes us “different.” Shaunti Feldhahn has reassuring words for the women in our lives regarding this topic.

On lust, after reading other of Smedes’ posts, I began to perceive his view, indeed, to be a grand cop-out and then some. Something about his writing gives me the heebie-jeebies. I think it has to do with his starting off with good ideas — ideas that other current Christian writers handle well — but then taking them out-of-bounds of what, I see anyway, it is that God is really trying to tell us in scripture. Yes, Paul writes about the freedom of a saved-by-grace life, but he also instructs to not use that as an excuse to flounder in one’s shortcomings (read “sin”).

On love, I agree that our culture has this screwed up — in more ways than one — and so does the church at times. Embarrassingly too often, secular culture’s demonstrations of love, of the varied types of love that do exist, trump church culture’s. You describe here romantic love supported by commitment, which I, in my relationship with my wife, should be all over demonstrating to the world since I see Christ being that way with the church.

I’ve seen Christians wrestle with (and over) so many issues that stem from what it is I think you’re pointing out as a root. I like this:

Glorify God, period. Make it a God thing, not a lust thing.

If we all followed these words, the world would know a whole lot more about God’s love than they do now.

By: ArtHasbrook

ArtHasbrook — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 21:42:34 +0000

First I have to say that I’ve always pictured Jesus in a robe and the women around him in robes too. While he spoke to a Samaritan woman I doubt he’d have been pleased to converse with people who showed off their bodies like we do today. The more honestly I pray for women who are advertising their bodies publicly the less I have been attracted to that sort of behavior. The quote about fixation might be a little exaggerated because I can tell you that I’m going to more likely to picture something behind a curtain after walking around with everyone’s curtains being drawn back.

That is a great line from the movie you talked about… I won’t be watching it, thanks for the warning. I totally agree with you about love and commitment. While I’ve been hurt so much and American’s are statistically flaky I have a lot of hope for these people to grasp reality Jesus paints in Matthew 19.

I could never “fall out of” love and I’m happy to say I’ve never felt so much love of God. Christ has healed my heart from terror as a child right up to deceit as an excuse of being a man. I got a lot of love for you too brother; but its not a Pitt thing. Thanks for the in depth explanation and thanks for not actually playing that music in the background (would’ve been too much).

By: ladylillydvm

ladylillydvm — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 11:57:53 +0000

Thank you, thank you, thank you! This was always a huge area of contention in the college group and even at LTs. This is the clearest explanation of the topic I’ve heard.

By: Noel

Noel — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 00:07:39 +0000

Thanks for the comment, Dan. I must say I enjoy reading your blog.